Today’s reading: 1 Chronicles 25-27.
Official Friend. There he is, near the end of a long list of men appointed to government positions in King David’s court. After the priests and Levites, singers, scribes, soldiers, and counselors.
Hushai the Arkite was the king’s friend. 1 Chronicles 27:33
Reading down the list, you might wonder if David’s counselors felt he needed an official friend to make up for some deficiency in his busy personal life. But make no mistake – Hushai wasn’t a friend for hire. He had proven the depth of his devotion to David during the time of Absalom’s rebellion. Then he crossed the enemy’s lines, pretended to be a friend of Absalom, and undermined the advice of the brilliant counselor, Ahithophel.
David was no stranger to friendship. His close relationship with Jonathan was one of the most famous friendships in history. The Bible has many other verses that extol the value of faithful companions.
- The heartfelt counsel of a friend is as sweet as perfume and incense. Proverbs 27:9
- A friend is always loyal, and a brother is born to help in time of need. Proverbs 17:17
- As iron sharpens iron, so a friend sharpens a friend. Proverbs 27:17
And there are many more. To round out this post on friendship, I rounded up a few posts from other bloggers that have wise insights on the topic.
Eight Tips for Maintaining Friendships. Gretchen Rubin at The Happiness Project lists some key ways to start and grow good friendships. Like this one: “Join or start a group. I’ve joined or started eleven groups since I began my happiness project, and almost all of them have been huge engines of happiness – in large measure, because they’ve allowed me to make and maintain new friendships.”
The Truth of True Friendship. From S. J. Wickham on Tribework, a testimony to the commitment friends require: “A friendship that lasts and lasts, enduring decades, till death does it part, is not only a blessing to both, but also it’s a testimony to the maturity in both individuals; to their tenacity to get through conflict; to their commitment to follow-up; to their energy in investing in the relationship.”
Friendship: a piece of cake. The (In)Courage site posts from a number of authors. Ann Swindell’s post will keep you motivated in your efforts to make friends. “If you’re not typically the pursuer in friendships, my encouragement is to try. Your phone call or text might be a lifeline one day for a friend who often seems very bold and put-together.”
What Everybody Ought to Know About Willpower and Friendship. Sarah Cunningham pointed out these great sites on Crowdsourcing Life and talks about the need to stick it out when friends are less than friendly: “Willpower comes in when we say, look, no matter what you do, no matter how much space you need, no martter how analytical or judgmental you can be, I *will* myself to be there for you if and when the time presents itself. That means, and here’s the tricky part, I have to let go…until the opportunity presents itself.”
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